The SFB

Random musings from a Gen X life lived on the edge… of nothing except Lake Erie. 70s and 80s pop culture and music.

  • Going Solo Part 3

    Here I go again….. Over Thanksgiving I attended two shows at the Town Ballroom in Buffalo, a very nice smaller venue with great sight lines and acoustics.  It’s a cool place if you don’t mind standing for a show.  There are some seated areas but mostly reserved for people with extenuating circumstances.  This is a… Read more

  • Crying in MAD and MOMA

    So yeah, I sound like a broken record.  About not having friends.  I keep writing about it, returning to it.  If you’re reading my stuff you are probably tired of it.  But I find this time in my life confusing, confounding, it makes me sad sometimes, not as much as it used to though.  And… Read more

  • Signs

    A hawk and a text. I have been struggling with something the last few days and really feeling lost, stupid, and like I made bad decisions. Wondering how a fairly accomplished and educated woman can makes foolish decisions. But also trying to forgive myself for being human, being curious, being overly sensitive, and overly sharing… Read more

  • My mom and St. Patrick’s Day

    Her favorite holiday. My mom was a force to be reckoned with and I always miss her this time of year. So I’m sharing two things I wrote for her: both her obituary and the eulogy from her funeral mass. And Happy St. Patrick’s Day to all who celebrate the wonderful traditions and heritage of… Read more

  • My love/hate relationship with Valentine’s day

    What’s up with holidays that are about forced merrymaking? A Valentine’s Day rant. Nothing  wrong with celebrating love, but come on, what actually is Valentine’s Day?  I mean no one is celebrating St. Valentine, right? I know the story about St. Valentine.  I was the advisor to a middle school newspaper in which kiddos wrote… Read more

  • Going Solo Part 2

    You’ll meet spectacular people! Gov’t Mule September 1, Terminal B at the Outer Harbor, Buffalo, New York. This is a fantastic new venue on Buffalo’s waterfront. Easy access, tons of free parking, good food and beverage options, fantastic views of the lake. Outstanding sunsets. I think music is best listened to live and outside. And… Read more

  • Going Solo!

    Don’t hesitate! Better than missing out, that’s fo sho! Solo shows- Part 1 DSO at Borderland Festival, Knox Farm State Park, East Aurora, New York Donnie Iris and the Cruisers, Robins Theater, Warren, Ohio Jerry Casale and John Zabrucky at the Medici Art Museum, Warren, Ohio I love live music.  I mean I LOVE live… Read more

  • To All the Boys Part 3

    1986 and ’87, Geneva, New York. Ready for the spring formal for one of the fraternities, maybe Phi Sig, at Hobart College. In my thrifted dress, haha, and my grandma’s jewelry. And a really interesting shade of blonde hair. But my tan was looking good! Ha ha! Lol! I thought I could do this in… Read more

  • Bobby…

    Well, Bobby Weir. Where to even begin. How are we supposed to live in a world without Bob Weir? How amazingly fucking lucky were we to have been on this fucked up planet with such a divine human being and magic maker. What a fucking privilege. I love, love, love the Grateful Dead with my… Read more

  • It’s the End of the World as We Know It

    And the rabbit hole I fell down while reminiscing about this PERFECT song. It’s the end of the world as we know it and are we feeling fine?  If you were in college in the early to mid 80s R.E.M. was everything.  I was reminded recently that It’s The End of the World As We… Read more